Sunday, October 14, 2007

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Thanks everyone for your concern and well wishes.

We are starting to sleep again. But we are still a little jumpy, hearing noises, triple checking locks and looking over our shoulders for Vodka Man.

The backyard of our house is full of sand. The previous owners had a beach theme going on. We are covering it with a stone patio. Vodka Man was the person installing the stone.

Vodka Man once had a lovely wife, three kids, a great house, cars and a well paying job. When he was a young boy in Georgia, his father killed his mother and he shot his father. He never got help for what that must have done to him, so I think a melt down was inevitable. He used copious amounts of alcohol to self medicate. His wife divorced him and took his kids across the country. He's had his car reposed and he has no job. He's now been padlocked out of the rooming house he lived in.

QV had him doing our patio thinking he was helping VM out and VM was doing a good job. He'd lay the stone for us and QV gave him all the beer he wanted and paid him, too.

We think this is what happened: Friday we were going to leave first thing in the morning for the mountains, but we had to wait because we were having a lawn irrigation system put in the front yard and the company decided to do it Friday and we had to be home. All day Friday VM sat around drinking beer and watching the guys install the sprinklers. VM drank up all but three beers. When the guys were done, QV gave them tips. Then we were going to leave. He gave VM the last of the beers in a cooler because VM was going to do some stone after we left. QV said that's all he had and he had no more cash but he'd give VM some on Sunday when we got back.

Saturday, VM did stone in the afternoon. It was hot and humid. He was still at the house at 4:30 when Snoogs was leaving the house. VM was on the front porch when she opened the front door. She told him she was leaving. He said he was thirsty and water wasn't cutting it. She told him we had no beer. He walked by her, into the house and got the BIG bottle of vodka from the liquor cabinet and took it out back.

When Snoogs got back to the house at seven, Vodka Man was gone and the vodka bottle was empty on the backyard bar. We think he downed the vodka in a very short amount of time and since he had no food all day and it was very hot, it sent him into a rage because QV didn't leave him beer or money.

When his ex-wife was fixing up their house to sell, he got drunk, broke in and destroyed the newly renovated bathroom, just because he was mad.

It has now been over a week and no one has seen him. Many people are looking though, as they want to see QV pop him one. We have since heard that he has been banned from several local bars for stealing money off of the bar when people go to the bathroom.

30 comments:

  1. I'm surprised he hasn't shown up to ask for the money he was promised.

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  2. Oh man! What a story! It's easy to feel sorry for him, and I do. But I would not let him back into my life. He needs way more mental help than a person can give.

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  3. Quilly: If he didn't know QV so well, he might find some Vodka somewhere and show up. I hope he's not that stupid because he's liable to get shot.

    Tlp: We did feel sorry for him at one time but believe me not any more. There is no coming back.

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  4. Wow ... nothing like biting the hand...

    Hope things settle down!

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  5. Hmmm. I hate to say this but it's only to be expected. Unless he hits rock bottom and decides to hook up with the local AA and get some help.

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  6. That was ridiculous! No wonder why he behaves like that. He's responsible for his own action but I also hope he'll find peace within.

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  7. What an awful situation Nessa...I have every sympathy for you .At least you know who is responsible..Having had lots of experience with people with drink related problems, I can concur with the comments of Jenn..he heas to reach his rock bottom, no one but the can judge where that is. You have to use that old favourite 'Tough love'..he cannot be allowed to interact with you or your family.He must know the hurt he has caused. I'm certain he will be back saying that his ways are mended..be strong Nessa.

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  8. Katie: Yeah, we are pretty sure he’s kicking himself right about now.

    Jenn: You are absolutely correct. This has been a learning experience for my husband. He has finally accepted that certain people must help themselves before you can help them.

    Reign: He’s needed help all along but never got it. His childhood is not something you get over easily on your own.

    Niall: I know how hard it is to change, so he won’t be allowed back. He put my daughter in jeapordy and that’s something he won’t have the chance to do again. This really scared my husband and he’s learned a valuable lesson: your “friends” can be really messed up and being nice to them doesn’t help them.

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  9. These are the true stories behind future urban legends. Let's hope he doesn't do something horrible.

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  10. I'd drink too if I were called Vodka Man...

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  11. Yeah, he was kind of doomed when his parents named him that, huh? I'm with TLP. I feel bad for him, but I can't see how any more contact with him will end well for anybody.

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  12. You will be a bit shaky for awhile. I am glad noone was hurt.

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  13. Me and wifey's thoughts are with you Nessa, as niall said at least you have a good idea what happened. Tell hubby to be careful, and make sure there are no witnesses.

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  14. Grunty: Every myth has its beginning.

    VE: A name can be hard to live down.

    Diesel: We are to the point now where we wish him well, but don’t let us see him.

    Betty: We know we were quite lucky.

    B & W: He admitted last night he can go on without damaging anyone. Enough time has passed.

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  15. Wow...that is a sad story. Still, you can't save everybody, and that guy needs to be given a wide berth.

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  16. oh my, sorry to hear of this trouble. most unsettling. lesson learned perhaps, never offer liquid to an alcoholic for pay. hopefully you will never see this person in your life again. Hugs!!!

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  17. Nessa I'm so sorry! Even when you know who the culprit is, getting your home broken into must still feel like such a violation. Some people just can't be helped.

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  18. Well let's hope this is "rock bottom" for Vodka Man... and he will choose a different path, here on out.

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  19. Hi, Nessa,

    First of all, I'm so sorry to hear about your experience with Vodka Man. Even if nothing was taken, having one's house broken into and property destroyed is such a lousy and stressful thing to go through. I hope it's resolved soon so you can relax!

    Second, thank you so much for your kind words on my book! Seems like we all flow through the center which is Mr. Fab...

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  20. Absolutely crazy! I hope VM gets what he deserves, and hope everything settles out OK.

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  21. Wow, that takes guts, drinking or no drinking. I don't know if I could STOP myself from hurting him if he showed up again.

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  22. Mr. Fab: It is sad, but the berth is big, now.

    Pauline: Yeah, we do tend to enable our “friends.”

    Kat: “Why?” is a big question for my husband.

    Mizmell: We are starting to wonder if he didn’t hurt himself because he’s disappeared with no where to go.

    Zhadi: Thanks. Mr. Fab is a hub. I will be looking for your book.

    Kev: I believe we all get what we deserve, whatever that maybe.

    Dabich: Yeah, it’s kinda hard not to want to get even.

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  23. I wish your kindness has been repaid better. Im glad you are the kind of person who gave a chance but knows better than to be foolish.
    Kind and wise, its a good combo

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  24. Stealing money off the bar when people get up? That's is sad, very sad ...

    -- david

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  25. Logo: We may be too optimistic for our own good, but we're learning.

    David: Yeah, not a good rep to have, especially in a small town.

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  26. This is sad for him, but he needs help. I hope someday he gets it.

    I am just glad you all are safe. It is really ashame he has done this to you and your family.

    Keep safe. :)

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  28. Debs: Thanks. We are thinking more about safety and wishing VM the best, just not near us.

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  29. the whole thing is sad for everybody, all round. That man needs help, but why oh why did he have to wreck everything for you guys too?

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  30. Betty: Almost like biting the hand that feeds.

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